Merry Christmas! I hope you enjoy this little animation that shows the creation process of one of my graphic art pieces. I plan to make a lot more of these, I think my favorite part is actually the calligraphy writing itself out at the end. :) TIP: this video looks best in 720p HD, you may have to adjust the video quality settings.
Why Would I Give Up The Things I Love Because I Got Married?
I find it odd that when I started telling people that I was getting married, I kept getting the same sort of questions...
"So are you going to keep Irish dancing?"
"Are you going to keep working here?"
"Are you going to give up photography?"
It's unbelieveable that many people automatically assume that falling in love means the end of all the things you did as a single person. What comes next? Lemme guess...
"Are you going to stop leaving the house?"
"Are you going to stop getting dressed in the morning?"
"Are you going to quit progressing in life and settle into a monotonous routine of cooking, cleaning and doing laundry?"
The fact that I'm getting questions like these so often makes me wonder two things. The person asking probably has no idea that married life is pretty much the same as single life. Which makes me wonder if they plan to give up the things they love most in life when they fall in love. Also, since I get these type of questions so often, I wonder just how many newlyweds actually answer yes.
I admit, I have less time since I got married. I've decided to make sure me and my sexy man have lots of free time to together, but by all means I'm never going to just stop doing the things I love to do! If finding your soulmate meant giving up everything you've worked so hard to accomplish all your life, we would all dread the day we finally fell in love. The fact is, getting married isn't "settling down". If anything it feels like I'm just getting started with my life! I'm very in love with Russ, but that doesn't mean I'm any less passionate about Irish dance or photography, art, singing, or even writing blogs.
Perhaps the real problem is too many people, especially women, assume that marriage requires that they to take on a specific gender role. I can only imagine what agony it would be to give up your own original talents and personality to become someone everyone expects you to be. I'll never be a stereotypical wife and I'm proud of that. I haven't been married for too long, but at this point I know my husband never expected me to change into someone else after we got married. In fact I'm sure he would hate it if I had.
I've never believed that getting married is a good excuse to give up the things you love. Doing so will only take away some of your happiness. My husband makes me very happy, but there are other things that make me happy as well. Giving up one happiness for another is just plain silly. Why trade in one for the other, when you can have both?
The Top 10 Reasons Why Wedding Receptions Are Dumb
So... I've encountered quite a few people who are a little surprised that Russ and I are not going to have a wedding reception. Frankly I'm a little shocked that so many people like receptions at all. They're expensive, annoyingly traditional and REALLY boring! But instead of going on and on about every single reason why wedding receptions are dumb, I've decided to create a top ten list that emphasizes the biggest reasons why everyone planning to get married should seriously consider skipping the reception all together.
10: Throwing a bouquet, cutting a cake, dancing with your father... what in the world do these weird traditions have to do with finding your soul mate? Nothing.
9: I don't want to spend the best day of my life posing for pictures. This is not about how I look in my dress or who styled my hair.
8: Is it really important to invite every single person that has ever seen or heard of us? The only real motivation in doing something like that is simply to show off. "Oh! Look at me! I'm so pretty in my dress and look at this hot guy who's in love with me! I'm so special! Look, look, look!" Ya... no thank you.
7: I don't really enjoy being the center of attention. That kind of stress gives me a headache. I don't want a headache on my wedding day.
6: It takes the focus away from the real purpose of the day. For example the actual sealing ceremony.
5: They just plain cost waaaaay too much.
4: They go on and on and on and on.... they seem to last forever. Especially if you decide to stand in a line all day! There's a fun way to spend the best day of your life.
3: If you don't have a reception you don't have to worry about buying flowers, a layered cake, decorations, clothes for bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls... need I go on?
2: You don't have to spend your entire engagement planning a reception, which leaves much more time for making-out and cuddling. ;)
and the number one reason of all...
1: With no reception, the Honeymoon starts much sooner. ;)