Taking Responsibility for Those Who Admire You

04.18.11

As you're growing up, you have certain people you have picked out that you look to as a great example. Whether it's a famous athlete, a brother, or a favorite teacher. There are many people that I have looked up to for a long time. People who are good examples of who I want to be someday.

Since people we look up to can let us down every now and then, it is important to know that just following someone else's example isn't enough. But it can take a while for someone to learn to stand on their own two feet without depending on other people who seem to be much stronger than they are.

As you get a bit older and start succeeding in some of your long term goals, you may begin to notice that others are watching you and looking to you as an example. It's a little alarming when someone expresses to you how amazing they think you are or how much they look up to you. It feels great, but at the same time you can't help but think, "Really? Me? Why?"

It's really not that hard to understand since, you know very well what it's like to look up to someone. You know they aren't perfect, but you want to be like them and can't really help it. They have an influence in you life and you even find yourself imitating them now and them.

If someone sees you as an example, that's when you need to stop, take a breath and not let it go to your head. When someone is looking up to you, it does not mean you're perfect, it does NOT mean you're better than anyone else, and it does NOT mean you should build yourself up as this amazing icon of awesomeness.

What it does mean is quite the opposite. It means you need to watch your step very closely. Letting yourself get carried away in the pride of the moment is the kind of thing you can no longer afford to do. You are being watched, imitated and admired.

No one is responsible for the actions of another person, but if you know that someone is following your example, you need to buckle down and be the best example you know how to be. If you treat others with kindness, show humility, and never place yourself above those who look up to you, you will help them to grow and follow their dreams, they will also admire your humility and kindness and try to do the same.

On the other hand, if you puff yourself up, put others beneath you and show off, don't be too surprised when that sweet little girl who said she wants to be like you, turns into a vain, selfish show off much like yourself.

I've watched too many people change when they learn that others look up to them. Perhaps is simply because they don't have a firm enough grip on reality to understand that they are not as perfect as their admirers say they are.

When you find yourself in a position of power and know that others are following you, don't abuse it. If you use that power to help others recognize their own beauty, talents and abilities, the love and joy that will surround you will be a far better reward than just using others to build up your own vanity.

I am very thankful to the people I admire for being such fine examples to me and hope that anyone who looks up to me knows just how amazing they are. We are all sons and daughters of God and there is no need to put others down in order to make yourself feel more important.

We can feel so much joy in celebrating our others talents at the same time as our own. Everyone has something amazing to offer this world and I hope that when others follow your example, they will be encouraged and loved. Taking responsibility for those who watch you is a great service and you can feel great pride knowing that you have a unique chance to help someone else fulfill their dreams.

Article written by Shelly Allen.
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