Happy Adults Still Know How To Play

06.06.11

Sometimes I feel a lot of pressure to stop doing the things I love to do. I don't know who made up the rule that says once you're an adult you need to stop playing with toys, dancing, goofing off, or just plain getting excited about good things that happen to you.

I guess in some people's minds, I was supposed to have stopped doing anything that makes me feel free and happy around the age of 21. I've been told by many that I don't act my age, or I'm really immature.

Nothing can change the fact that I am nearly 29. I can act however I darn well please and it doesn't mean I'm trying to relive my childhood. It means I don't believe in giving up on the things that make me happy just because other adults decided to grow out of what makes them happy.

For those who nag me about my playful nature, or try to make me feel stupid for being a tease who loves to laugh a lot, I have something to say to you: Is there a reason why you never smile? Is there a reason why you don't get excited when you get a free candy bar, or win a board game? Life is exciting, sweet and ever so precious. Expressing myself in a playful way does not make me childish, stupid or immature. It shows I'm happy, love my life and I feel like celebrating!

Any adult who doesn't know how to play or laugh at little mistakes apparently missed out on a valuable lesson I learned a long time ago. I'm the same person I was when I was 5, 12, and 17. My life has definitely changed, but I never reached some magical age when my entire personality and playful attitude suddenly converted into an a serious, boring personality.

I started dancing at 21 and have been doing it for 8 years. When people find out how old I am, they are often shocked that I'm still dancing and that puzzles me. Life is too short to suddenly decide you want to give up on the talents you've worked for many years to develop. There is no reason to try and change who you are just to prove to the people around you that you are in fact a real grown up. The need to prove one's self to others is a very immature attitude. A mature adult knows that if you love something, you should just do it, no matter what others have to say.

Don't be afraid to laugh and goof off with your friends, play barbies with your niece, or shout WOOHOO! on payday. If you don't know how to have fun anymore that doesn't define you as an adult, that defines you as boring. Smart adults know that things like board games, Christmas, toys, and candy are NOT just for kids.

If it's been a while since you had some real playtime, give it a shot! Believe me, adults know how to play better than kids do, they have more experience.

Article written by Shelly Allen.
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